July 23, 2006, 8:40 pm

The Doctor Is In and A Nurse Learns to Watch Her Back

men

Ummm…..yeah!

Because those “healthy” men who don’t think they need to see a doctor are probably harboring triglyerides so high the fat in their blood rises to the top of the tube (yes, I just saw it yesterday) or their cholesterol is 6,589 or…..

….they have diabetes.

Afraid of needles?

Grow up.

Afraid of the prostate exam?

Dying of prostate cancer is worse than the rectal exam.

Got the “It can’t happen to me, machismo attitude?”

Get your head out of the pile of sand you buried it it in.

You are not immune from life, aging or disease.

Get a grip. Use that macho man attitude to overcome your fear.

Ask around. Get some referrals.

Make some calls.

See a doctor.

You owe it to your wife, your kids, and your grandkids.

Any Questions?

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John’s first doctor’s appointment was interesting.

Dr. Hsu is quite a character. An internal medicine doctor specializing in metabolic disorders (aka: endocrinologist), he has a great sense of humor.

The first thing he did at the appointment was hand both John and I a pamphlet on Type 2 diabetes and tell us we had ten minutes to read it. When he came back, he’d test us and as a nurse, he expected 100% correct from me!

Instead of lecturing he asks questions.

Here’s a paraphrasing of the first visit.

Dr: Why do you take your blood sugar four times a day?

John: Because the hospitalist said to do it that often.

Dr: But why do you take it?

John: To see how well I’m doing?

Dr: You take your blood sugar to see if you need to make changes in your lifestyle. In your diet. For you, twice a day at random times should be enough. You only take your blood sugar to see if you need to make changes.

I told the doctor that I had gotten all the bad food out of the house and had bought Glucerna shakes and bars and sugar free everything.

Dr: That’s no fun. I’m not a fan of these diabetic products. You eat normal food in controlled portions. I prefer that “real food” be eaten.

Whoa! I thought the whole world would be changing and all we really had to do was eat healthier, exercise and tweak how we were doing by the blood sugar readings.

He set a goal of 110-140 fasting and a two-hour after eating goal of 160.

He increased the metformin to 1000mg and divided the dose into twice a day.

(I know to those who have diabetes, these numbers seem wonderful. John’s A1c was 8.7 so he had been dealing with the diabetes for awhile. He responded well to the metformin, thank goodness.)

He stopped the atenolol. John’s BP was only elevated in the hospital. We were to check his BP twice a day and he gave a prescription for atenolol if we wound up needing it.

Dr. Hsu put much of the decision making on his patients I noticed. Perhaps because I was a nurse. But it seemed to empower his patients. The doctor could advise, the patient could choose to take the advice. John was still a bit confused about it all, but we left with three gazillion pamphlets on diet, cholesterol, eating out, weight loss….

You name it, we had a reference for it.

That day we went home and I signed John up as a member of the American Diabetic Association.

Did you know ETOH increases triglycerides?

I did not know that.

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John picked up on his own care and blood sugars pretty quickly. He’d call me at work to ask questions and get an opinion on how he should handle his blood sugar reading and what would be okay to eat.

I felt comfortable returning to work as John was essentially healed from the gallbladder surgery and was really getting comfortable with the diet.

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How can I put this delicately?

The ER has eyes and ears everywhere and it you say something about someone, it will get back to them.

It got back to me.

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I was informed by a very reliable source when that unflattering things had been said about me while I was gone by co-workers on certain shifts. And that I needed to watch my back because, essentially, these people were not my friends.

Indeed, I had a few people independently tell me the same thing.

And I was told what was said and who said what. So I know who they are.

No, these people are not my friends, they are my co-workers.

I was devastated.

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I did not quit.

I’m a nurse to take care of patients so that is what I decided to focus on.

I work in the best ER on the planet in terms of patient care and in one of the best hospitals I’ve ever known.

The problem is my job went from being a place where I invested every part of me to just a place where I go to work and do my job, do it well, and come home.

Everything seems good on the surface. We joke, laugh, help each other and talk about the same things we always have.

But I know.

I watch my back.

And those stab wounds hurt.

6 Comments

  • Susan RN

    July 23, 2006 at 9:50 pm

    I know politics are everywhere, but I’m sorry you have to deal with it, and I’m sorry it makes you uncomfortable on the job. Things will get better, but I know how hard it is to show up for work under those conditions. In the meantime, I’m really happy your husband has adjusted so well, so far. Take care, and hang in there, buddy. Do what you love.


  • Janet

    July 24, 2006 at 6:20 pm

    I wish you would have a chat with my partner about his health. He doesn’t listen to me. Typical macho man stuff. To make it worse, he is a nurse too.

    Have you ever heard it said that nurses eat their young? It seems like things get bitchy when the stress gets high and some people will take it out on whoever is not there at the time. Then to keep things stirred up people will start telling tales. You just happened to be an easy target because you weren’t there to defend yourself. I know it’s hard not to take it personally. Blow it off, don’t say anything to anyone that you don’t want broadcast all over the hospital, and watch your back. It will be someone else’s turn soon. Don’t dignify the gossips with a reaction, that’s what they want you to do. Pretend that you never heard a word. What goes around comes around. Their karma will catch up with them soon.


  • Mama Mia

    July 24, 2006 at 6:22 pm

    It is hard when those we trust hurt our feelings. I’m sorry this has happened to you, Kim.


  • Nurse Bridget

    July 29, 2006 at 8:35 pm

    What was it that our old manager used to say…”The 3 B’s: Bitching, Backstabbing and Bickering.” Keep your head up, Kim! Just remember that women love to talk and they always will (especially when their home lives are the antithesis of their work lives!).

    As for your husband, I know how you feel. After I gave my Mom a crash course on being a home-health aide last weekend, I’m still calling every night to check on my Dad. And he went through hell getting back on his Metformin after being on a sliding-scale in the hospital for 5 days. Not one nurse/doctor/discharge planner at the local hospital (who’s slogan rhymes with “drive”) told him to ease back onto his Metformin (i.e. take 500 mg bid for one week, then increase to 500 mg in the a.m. and 1000 mg at night). Medication reconciliation, my gluteal region! After 3 days of hot weather, power outages, high-dose Metformin and a pureed-1800 ADA diet, it took a toll on his GI system. Luckily, his local MD told him how to restart his DM meds.

    (kinda) Random thought: It’s a small world…hope to talk to you soon!


  • Karen

    August 1, 2006 at 12:01 am

    I’m sorry to hear about the coworker situation - that just plain sucks.

    Side note: “Hsu” is my maiden name! .: warm fuzzies :. Glad to hear that a “Hsu” (no relation, though) is doing good in the world. =)


  • Melissa

    August 25, 2006 at 7:52 pm

    If I heard that someone was telling lies about me, I would confront them. If they just didn’t like me, I would pretend that everything was fine. People have the right to not like me, but they better not make up stories.


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I'm a registered nurse who has seen life from both sides of the health-illness continuum. In plain English, I'm not happy with what I have seen as a patient and as the wife of a newly diagnosed diabetic...

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